Just like the women at the battered woman’s shelter, we had no idea what waited for us at home, but not because a man was exasperated from life, looking for a soft target to crush or bend into impossible shapes, but because our lives were not really up to us, and this news comes in the direct lesson from shallow water, or drunk driving, or steel on steel, where the tender tissue fairs poorly, often giving in to momentum — a momentum that severs spinal cord or damages brain tissue, in the case of Tim, my roomie from the city missing a chunk of his brain, memories cut away because the swelling presses grey matter against white…